Playing Tips: Couples Communication and Relationship Tips
The marriage and relationship conflict resolution skills are those of body, mind and spirit. This card deck engages each of these realms, whether using the deck by yourself or with others. Users are guided in a range of responses to conflict, including internal inquiry and reflection, feeling and sensing, verbal communication, nonverbal expression, writing, drawing, music, movement, meditation, moving energy, and practical, physical tasks.
Any of the conflict resolution and relationship repair tools, processes and awareness provided in the Relationship Repair Game will be more effective than our unconscious, habitual reactions...thus, more likely to lead towards understanding, compassion, peace, and resolution.
Use the Card Symbol Key on the back of the instruction booklet to interpret the icons (symbols) directions on the cards.
The skill or tool portrayed on each card has at least one specific, applicable "action item" that is prompted by an icon; something for the player (reader) to directly say to the other person, a set of questions to internally consider and answer, a visualization, or an outward action (moving the body, writing, drawing, creating something, etc.)
Many of the cards provide options (bullet points): choose the words or action that are most authentic and relevant for you.
The conflict resolution tools that require more in-depth instructions, examples, or support materials have additional info in the instruction booklet.
Maximizing the Impact of Each Use
While explained in more detail in the game's instruction booklet, below are a few suggestions to maximize your sense of meaning, depth and productivity with each use of the card deck.
Setting Intentions - Minimize distractions in your environment and focus on your deeper goals and intentions for yourself and the relationship you are working on.
VIDEO DEMONSTRATING PEOPLE USING THE GAME TO WORK THROUGH A CONFLICT.
VIDEOS DEMONSTRATING SOME OF THE MORE INVOLVED CONFLICT TRANSFORMATION TOOLS.
Analyzing Power Dynamics - Consider how embedded power dynamics might be impacting the conflict or your approach to it.
Respectfully Inviting People - Be considerate of time, timing, and apprehension when inviting others to a challenging dialogue.
Closing and Next Steps - Appreciate yourself and other game participants for investing the time/effort into growing personal and relationship skills, and clarify specific next steps and timeline for any agreements made.